One of the primary problems with the good vs. evil trap is that it is egocentric, and tends to ignore perspective. There are, at last count, around seven billion different definitions about what is good versus evil. Or as Eillis & Harper (1961, p. 128) point out, "The idea that people are 'bad' or 'wicked' when they misbehave stems from a second erroneous notion: namely, that we can easily define 'good' and 'bad' or 'ethical' and 'unethical' behavior and that reasonable people can readily see when they act 'rightly' or 'wrongly.' Modern thinkers have shown that morality is a relative concept that differs widely according to places and circumstances. Communities rarely reach a unanimous decision as to 'true goodness' or 'real badness.' As Joseph Fletcher and other writers have shown, human ethics are more situational than absolutistic. Postmodern philosophy says that absolutistic and unchangeable rules of morals and ethics are too rigid and unworkable. . . .Most people, even when they 'know' or accept certain standards of 'good' conduct, easily and unconsciously rationalize their own behavior and find 'good' reasons for doing 'bad' things. If we denounce humans for their difficulties in defining and accepting 'good' behavior, we are unrealistic and unjust."
John-Roger and Peter McWilliams sum it up best when they note: "When you look into an infant's eyes, what do you see? We've looked into quite a few, and we have yet to see fundamental evil radiating from a baby's eyes." (1991, p. 61) No single person on this earth is intrinsically evil. Even the Hitler's and Manson's of the world started out as vulnerable children before their life's experiences made them what they were. The horrible things we do to each other are caused by the way our unique experiences, upbringings, needs, wants, and personal perspectives sometimes clash with those of others. If you can remember this principle when others wrong you, it will help you maintain a healthier perspective throughout your life.