Irrational Belief #1:
I am powerless over what happened; Feeling powerless as parents
When things go wrong in life, it often feels as though we are kites in the wind, powerless against forces that are beyond our control. Following certain events, it's natural for us to feel powerless. Every caring parent has a strong desire to protect their children and defend their family, and the thought of not being there to help when your child was in need or being unable to prevent something negative from happening to your family doesn't feel very good.
But these feelings of being powerless are an illusion, brought about by looking at things through the wrong state of mind. You may not have power in relation to changing a past event, but you have all the power in the world over determining what this event will mean. You have the power over how much love and comforting your child receives. You have the power over how they come to think of it. It is you who will determine whether they shrivel or grow from such an experience. You have the power to be there for them right now in their time of need. You have the power to erase or overcome any hurt that was caused. You're in control of your child's upbringing, and your influence is strong enough to overcome any negative influences from the outside world. Just take a look at the power that is in your hands: