Guidelines for dealing with negative emotional states:
1. Never reject a child's emotions as foolish, silly, or babyish. Emotions come from the innermost core of our being, so to reject a child's emotions is to reject the child. Even if a child's concerns seem silly to you, they aren't to the child. Remember that the feelings are real, even if the reason for them isn't. You must refute their irrational thoughts without attacking their feelings. It's best to start out all such conversations with something like "I know you feel sad, and I can certainly appreciate that this is bothering you. But have you thought about..." and then helping to reframe the event in better terms. This acknowledges their state of mind while also redirecting them towards more productive thought.