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This is one of the more provoking books in our series, but we urge parents to keep with it. Though the content is strong, it is no different than reading your children hansel and gretel. Unlike those other books, this one actually has a purpose. It is intentionally strong, to ensure it provokes the feelings and fears a child may have now, so you can deal with them now, instead of leaving these ploys for a molester to use.
Conditioning is a term that is used to describe what molesters do to evoke secrecy in the children they molest. Conditioning can be very subtle at times, but it is also usually extremely powerful. If you do everything else right in abuse prevention but miss this point, your child will still easily fall victim, because they will feel trapped inside the lies a molester will use to achieve secrecy.
This book addresses many of the common forms of conditioning that molesters use. Going over these things before hand will make it so that if anyone tries to use these or similar lines in real life, it will set off an instant alarm with a child. Going over potential conditioning also gives parents a chance to address the real concerns children might face if someone were to say that to them. You must not only address what is said, but the response that such a thing will have on your child.
Take your time with this book. It is designed to be more of a discussion book than a read along book. Take time to get your child’s full responses from the questions. Probe about any fears they might feel if someone were to say these things to them. Tell them to try and put themselves inside the picture, and pretend that is really happening. Then ask them what they felt about the situation. What made them scared. Find out the potential fears, and address them. If you help children to understand the concepts of what people might say to try and trick them and how they can always be safe, a molester will not be able to work in secrecy with your child.
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