Helping Abused & Neglected Children
When it comes to helping kids, there are two types of helping. There’s the feel-good, political type of helping, which usually consists of shouting out condemnations about how horrible something (or someone) is, proposing divisive and antagonistic interventions, then naming an enemy to seek out and destroy so that you can claim victory over said evil and be hailed the hero who saves children. This type of “helping” is great for politicians and other narcissists looking for public acclaim, but it’s horrible for children.
Then there’s actual helping, which requires a recognition that child maltreatment is not a problem of good versus evil, but of imperfect parents making mistakes. Actual helping involves repairing adult-child relationships rather than destroying them; rebuilding families, not dividing them; and working with rather than against people to create productive changes in behavior that will impact children in positive ways. It’s harder work for less praise, and it doesn’t provide the same ego boost one gets from condemning others. Which type of helping do you imagine society tends to promote?
Unfortunately, most child advocacy is built predominately around the first type of “helping.” It’s a type of helping in name only, one that serves adult egos but absolutely destroys children. We’ve watched these destructive type of interventions grow more prominent over the years, to the point where the problems created through child abuse interventions are almost as big of a problem as child abuse itself.
This area is meant to provide readers with straight forward information on how to help abused and neglected children, while also exposing the many ways that society gets things horribly wrong.