It may sound superficial, but something as simple as the way your child sits or stands can have an impact on how they are seen and targeted by bullies. Scores of psychological studies have found that people constantly monitor the body language of others. What they read from that body language shapes their perception of that person. This all happens below the level of conscious awareness, of course, but if a bully sees a child slumped over and head down, looking like an abused puppy, they may instinctually target that person on account of the body language they exhibit.
So teach your children how to walk with a sense of confidence and purpose: head up, shoulders back, looking around you. Walk with a sense of purpose, as if you know where you are and where you're headed. Keep your hands out of your pockets.
When encountered by a bully, crossing your arms against your chest can signal a standoffish defiance. Standing with your hands behind your back can signal a calm authority. Hands on your hip can also signal defiance, but may be seen as an aggressive gesture, which can escalate the situation. You should avoid fidgeting, putting your hands in your pockets or merely dangling them at your side, which may be seen as passive or fearful.
Teaching children to be assertive through eye contact
It's said that the eyes are the window into the soul, and they can certainly provide cues to a bully. Here are some guidelines to help your child convey assertiveness through eye contact: